Patrick Doyle talks about gaslighting and why it is one of the top tactics abusers use that harm the person they are in a relationship with.
When an abuser gaslights you, they get you to doubt your own understanding of what happened. They deliberately get you to the point where you can not even trust your own thoughts or instincts. You then doubt what you saw and felt in the situation. This allows the abuser to make you the problem instead of themselves.
If you are in a relationship where someone doesn’t ever admit responsibility of hurting you, there is a good chance you are experiencing a form of gaslighting.