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Justifying is another top tactic abusers use in harming their partners. 

"JUST as if I never sinned". This is the approach abusers take with their partners. They always put the responsibility on you because in their eyes they did n...

Spiritualizing is one of the most harmful ways an abuser hurts their partner in terms of the damage it causes.

Spiritualizing takes spiritual ideals like the scriptures and uses them to control, harm, and avoid responsibility.
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Patrick Doyle talks about how rationalizing is the fourth top tactic abusers use that harm the person they are in a relationship with.

Rationalizing at its core is excuse making. An abuser makes an excuse for their harmful behavi...

Patrick Doyle shares how minimizing is another top tactic he has seen abusers use to avoid responsibility for their harmful behavior.

With minimizing, the abuser takes an event of harm and tries to make it less problematic. They ...

Patrick Doyle shares how blame shifting is another top tactic abusers use that harm the person they are in a relationship with.

Blame shifting is very common in emotional abuse. When there is an issue between two people, the pers...

Patrick Doyle talks about gaslighting and why it is one of the top tactics abusers use that harm the person they are in a relationship with.

When an abuser gaslights you, they get you to doubt your own understanding of what happe...